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Fear does not need to Control Us

Updated: Feb 3

Fear has been my nemesis for a long time. Especially fear of heights. Somehow my subconscious mind will always say that I can't possibly do it and I would let fear take over and control me. I allowed fear to steer and control me as opposed to me being the steerer of my own life.


For the last 10 years, I have been pushing my boundaries with fear. I had a marriage breakdown and had to learn to live on my own. I had to learn who I am and what I want out of life. I resigned from my high-paying job to study and do what I am passionate about without any backup plan. I started travelling on my own to unknown places. I went on a boat into the deepest point of the ocean. I drove long distances on my own. I climbed a bridge and ziplined 72 metres above the river, I went on a four-day rail cycle, got injured and continued riding 200km. I faced my fear of riding through mountain trails and riding along thin high bridges. I faced my fear of sitting on a mountain. I have abseiled down a cave with snakes. I have parasailed 800 metres swinging in the air.


I started my counselling business even though I was fearful of not being good enough. My purpose, the validation, and the joy I receive from counselling have given me the light to keep on going. I am sharing a snippet of my journey to let you know that you can do it too.

While there are still things that I need to conquer I truly believe fear no longer controls me. Instead, I face and acknowledge what I need to do to work through my worries.


You may have a different type of fear or challenge to overcome. Things that may cause you to be anxious, cause you pain, worry, and sleepless nights. What I encourage you to do is take little steps to face your fear. When we are controlled by fear we miss opportunities that could be amazing and could change our life.

But how does one truly overcome fear from a holistic perspective?

  1. Self-awareness: Recognizing and accepting your fears is the first step. It's okay to be scared. What matters is how you confront and manage that fear.

  2. Mindful Acceptance: Embrace the present. While it's essential to plan for the future, obsessing over it feeds your anxieties. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, can center your thoughts and keep you grounded.

  3. Positive Affirmations: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Instead of saying, "I can't," tell yourself, "I will try."

  4. Seek Support: Sometimes, discussing your fears with someone, be it a friend, family, or professional, can offer a fresh perspective and strategies to cope.


While our journeys are not the same, let my journey be a testament that fear, while a powerful adversary, is not insurmountable. . Freedom comes when you let yourself be free of the restraints that keep pulling you in. Keep placing one foot in front of the other. So, take that leap, face those challenges, and remember:



By Tersia Woodenberg (SoulCheck)

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